Fatherhood...you failed.

Once you have children, and they grow into mature adults. As a Father you say one of two things to yourself.(depending how your children turned out) You either say "Yeah...I did a good job as a father" or you say..."Damn...Mom fucked up" Luckily I have only had to say option one. But deep in my mind I cant help but question If I was a good father or not. Mainly because I am not sure what a fathers role is. How can I be a good father if I don't know what it is I am supposed to do in order to be one?

There is no  check off list  like...Did you support and encourage them ... Yes except for the time when she wanted to become a pole dancer  So Check on that one , Did you help guide them ...um  yes...except for the time when they were in their teenage years and thought they knew everything. (What was I supposed to do?)  So Check on that too. You see..If there was just a check system in place so that we could make sure that we as parents didn't forget something that could be crucial to our children becoming responsible adults , it would be so nice.

Some parents just seem to be perfect ..They do everything according to some book that Betty Boob wrote. But what they don't know is why she wrote this book...she wrote it to get away from the kids. The kids were probably driving her crazy and she needed to get away 8 hrs out of the day to regain her sanity. Meanwhile a nanny was raising her own children. (That's just my theory)

So back to my topic....how do I know that I was a good Father? In my head I don't think I was...In my heart I think I was a very good father. What is the role of the Father anyway?...Is it the disciplanaryinan? Is it the Rule Maker?  Jeez....I hope not...I would have definitely failed as a father because I was neither really. Mainly because I worked 3rd shift for so long that I wasn't always there for those roles except on weekends. I  think what I did to compensate those roles was I tried the friend thing that they say you are not supposed to do. That was a treat....for a short while anyway, until you actually had to dish out a some discipline. Then it was like BFF just became your enemy #1. So really I didn't play that role very good either. Do you base your accomplishment on whether or not they get a good paying job? Or maybe what social network they hangout with? I just want to know if I was a good Father or not...why is that so hard to answer for myself? I Love my children as much as I possibly can...but doesn't mean that I was a good Father does it? I think the best way to decide on an answer is to do the pro vs con list. and which ever has the most biggest list, wins.

Cons (Or things I did not do well as a father)                                              

I did not do well at changing diapers.
I did not do well at making it to all of their school functions
I did not do well at letting them have the last word
I did not do well at showing my daughters that Husbands should do dishes too.
I did not do well at Listening to them when they had boy trouble
I did not do well at helping them with their homework

Pros (Or things I did do well)
I made sure they always had fun.
I taught them how to laugh at themselves

I made them good debaters

I taught them that education was important

I taught them what a man is really thinking

I taught them how to speak their mind. 

Damn...they tied...So maybe I should just ask them and see what they say...after all its not really important how I feel about it is it? But it is more  important how they feel about it...they would tell me like it is with no Bullshit...well on second thought...maybe I should rethink that route. They might do just that....I mean , if  I look at all my pros...they will speak their mind about the subject thoroughly and have fun doing it.

Okay...maybe I wasn't a good Father...Maybe I was just one hell of a Dad.  :)